Arranged Marriage

Marriages are made in Heaven !

But we meet our partner only on this earth.

Marriage whether love or arranged is a compromise in itself .. Where arranged marriage is all about the boy and his family,their whims and fancies , love marriage is a struggle to marry that person and adjust to his family throughout your life.

Let me take you through this journey of Arranged Marriage....

Arranged marriage- Our parents arrange and then we agree for it. The girl has to go through the entire process right from registering in Shaadi.com to clicking snaps in different dresses and making a portfolio. The parents try to spread the word among all the relatives that we have a girl who is of marriageable age-Need a groom for her!

Then starts the process of selection and rejection. Some meet up in malls, some in hotels, and some meet up at home. And if the conference is at the girl's house, the girl's side start the preparation 2 weeks in advance. The house gets a cleanup, curtains are changed, a new set of crockery is opened,a new bunch of artificial flowers is picked up from Crawford Market. Basically the whole house gets a makeover! The girl is forced to wear a saree even though she is more comortable in a salwar kameez.She undergoes a training how to walk, how serve tea to the guy, how to feel shy etc.

The bride's mother will make a variety of dishes or may even order it from the caterers;like sabudana vada, kande pohe, dahi vada, samosa,gajjar halwa, gulab jamun...(yummy). But when these things are served to the boy and his family every dish is introduced by saying "Have this, Its made by daughter".

The whole family sorrounds the couple, making them feel uncomfortable . After a long session of question and answers they somehow manage to rob sometime under the pretext of the girl showing the boy her house or her room and may be some kind of creative stuff which she may have made in 04th or 05th standard.

After this meeting if both the parties say 'yes' then the couple is allowed to meet and hangout together. In the meanwhile both the families start their work by getting ready for a "Chat mangani and Paat shaadi".

Booking of hall, arranging for the caterers, invitation list, buying of gold, shopping for the groom and his family, checking out kanchivaram sarrees, accomadation for the relatives who are coming from the native place, Sangeet, Mehndi, Shaadi, Bidaai...phew. Everyone gets involved in this entire activity wholeheartedly.

Finally the D-Day arrives, the bride and the groom take vows of protecting their marriage and taking care of each other throughout their life. They go through the Saath Pheras, the groom puts sindoor and the mangalsutra to the bride and from Miss she becomes Mrs......

Tears of joy and sorrow is seen in the eyes of the bride's family.

They bid a heartfelt goodbye to her as she steps into her new role of a wife and of a daughter in law and goes to her new house.

All the preparations that were done over a period of almost a year, the dream that everyone dreamed together, finally comes true on that one day.....

(This post is dedicated to everyone who are going through this process and are at some stage or the other. For now Namrata its for you...We will all miss you a lot .. )

Lots of Luv

From all of us from 8.44 Vasai local.