As I walk thru life....

As I walk thru another year of my life I look back to find that my life has not been normal like everyone around. You can say I m destiny’s child .It keeps throwing cards at me but I somehow failed to play the game properly.

Life has given me a lot of surprises few good and maximum bad. It gave me parents but did not to give me their support, it gave me education but failed to support it with a good job, it gave me money but not one chance to save it, it gave me lots of friends but missed to give me a sibling with whom I could share my insecurities and worries, it gave me love but did not give me the understanding and maturity to take care of it. It gave me freedom to take decisions but proved them all wrong.

This has been my life with fewer ups and more downs. It is unexpected that in spite of being a slowest in the race, I still have people around me to pick me up when I fall. .God has gifted me with some very tolerant people who patiently listen to me when I go all depressed cribbing about my sad life.

As I walk thru life… I have realized that I am not moving ahead. While people around me are climbing the ladder towards success; my ladder seems to be missing and I m still searching for it…

As I walk thru life…I realized that I have not maintained relations. But I’m happy they were really not worth it. I always believe in having a pure and fair relation. There is no place for ego and attitude here.

As I walk thru life… I realized that I took all decisions from my heart and not from my brain. I listened to my heart most of the time and maybe that’s why I m still left behind.

As I walk thru life… I realized that I am very weak and end up displaying my emotions. And that it’s high time I learn to take control of them.

As I walk thru life. I realized that when it’s my turn to get some gift I m always the last one in the queue. And the best has always gone to the people ahead of me.

As I walk thru life… I thank God for playing his role very well as there have been many instances where I have fought with him and refused to talk to him for days together. But he’s still there somewhere looking at me and may be even he is very helpless as he has too many people to attend to.

As I walk thru life… I realized that the day to day happiness is more special than a big reward from life.

As I walk thru life… I cannot promise anything to myself but only make sure that I don’t end up hurting anyone. I promise to give everyone around me the best of what I have and what I can afford which I have been doing since so many years.

As I walk thru life…I’m happy that I learnt to cry alone. And that one by one I need to learn to deal with everything else mentioned above.

As I walk thru life …A loved one asked me “What have you achieved in life?” And I still seem to be searching for that answer.

And as you all read thru this post, I just want to tell u that, Don’t think about the Past or the future. Just concentrate on the Present as the name says it’s a gift. Try to make it beautiful and special….

God has decided a certain percentage of joys and sorrows in everyone’s life.
Neither it can go 1% higher nor can it come 1% lower. It’s fixed.

And only when I understand this equation of life may be half my problems will end there.

As I end this post I would just like to say:

Miracles happen… And even if they don’t its ok. It’s not necessary that God should give you everything you ask for.

Arranged Marriage

Marriages are made in Heaven !

But we meet our partner only on this earth.

Marriage whether love or arranged is a compromise in itself .. Where arranged marriage is all about the boy and his family,their whims and fancies , love marriage is a struggle to marry that person and adjust to his family throughout your life.

Let me take you through this journey of Arranged Marriage....

Arranged marriage- Our parents arrange and then we agree for it. The girl has to go through the entire process right from registering in Shaadi.com to clicking snaps in different dresses and making a portfolio. The parents try to spread the word among all the relatives that we have a girl who is of marriageable age-Need a groom for her!

Then starts the process of selection and rejection. Some meet up in malls, some in hotels, and some meet up at home. And if the conference is at the girl's house, the girl's side start the preparation 2 weeks in advance. The house gets a cleanup, curtains are changed, a new set of crockery is opened,a new bunch of artificial flowers is picked up from Crawford Market. Basically the whole house gets a makeover! The girl is forced to wear a saree even though she is more comortable in a salwar kameez.She undergoes a training how to walk, how serve tea to the guy, how to feel shy etc.

The bride's mother will make a variety of dishes or may even order it from the caterers;like sabudana vada, kande pohe, dahi vada, samosa,gajjar halwa, gulab jamun...(yummy). But when these things are served to the boy and his family every dish is introduced by saying "Have this, Its made by daughter".

The whole family sorrounds the couple, making them feel uncomfortable . After a long session of question and answers they somehow manage to rob sometime under the pretext of the girl showing the boy her house or her room and may be some kind of creative stuff which she may have made in 04th or 05th standard.

After this meeting if both the parties say 'yes' then the couple is allowed to meet and hangout together. In the meanwhile both the families start their work by getting ready for a "Chat mangani and Paat shaadi".

Booking of hall, arranging for the caterers, invitation list, buying of gold, shopping for the groom and his family, checking out kanchivaram sarrees, accomadation for the relatives who are coming from the native place, Sangeet, Mehndi, Shaadi, Bidaai...phew. Everyone gets involved in this entire activity wholeheartedly.

Finally the D-Day arrives, the bride and the groom take vows of protecting their marriage and taking care of each other throughout their life. They go through the Saath Pheras, the groom puts sindoor and the mangalsutra to the bride and from Miss she becomes Mrs......

Tears of joy and sorrow is seen in the eyes of the bride's family.

They bid a heartfelt goodbye to her as she steps into her new role of a wife and of a daughter in law and goes to her new house.

All the preparations that were done over a period of almost a year, the dream that everyone dreamed together, finally comes true on that one day.....

(This post is dedicated to everyone who are going through this process and are at some stage or the other. For now Namrata its for you...We will all miss you a lot .. )

Lots of Luv

From all of us from 8.44 Vasai local.